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Help Me Out Here.
Help. Tell me if this has ever happened to you:
You’re having a conversation with someone you respect, and all of a sudden they say something shocking.
It happened to me just last week.
But here’s the shocker – their statement was about me!
Let’s back up and start at the beginning.
A friend told me they wanted to help me. They made it clear that what they had to say was in my best interest; it wasn’t an insult or a criticism.
You and I both know that doesn’t usually lead to something good. But here goes…
“Bruce – we’ve known each other for years. I know how much you care about people and how much you want to see people succeed.
You love being a resource – introducing them to someone who can help, telling them a story about someone who overcame their struggles by changing their message. You love to tell stories of transformations with your clients, friends, mastermind members, and so on. And you dislike seeing people struggle, especially when you know how to help!”
It doesn’t sound bad yet, does it?
But then they said: “But you know what? I’m not getting that from your weekly blogs – I don’t see anything about how much you truly care and how much you want to help people!”
That hit me!! I couldn’t stop thinking about what they said.
The next day I woke up with a new perspective. I always assumed that people – especially my long-time readers – knew I wanted to help people succeed and not struggle! That I want to be a resource for them. That I am concerned…
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized I’m not saying it point-blank – that it’s difficult for me to see people struggle when I know how to help.
I’ve been writing these weekly blogs for over 15 years now. Writing them is one of the highlights of my week. I love sharing ideas and perspectives, and yes – even stirring up a little controversy now and then! But perhaps my friend was right – maybe I wasn’t showing my heart…
I’ve been working with my core team for the last three years on new programs. And we came up with three acronyms for each program.
Next month, we will launch two programs – a do-it-yourself program and a done-with-you program.
I won’t start promoting my programs in this blog – that’s not what it’s about. But I do believe this:
The letters, emails, and testimonials that touch me the most are where I’ve helped someone, opened their eyes, showed them a path, improved their personal or professional life, and made something significantly better. I love receiving those!
We both know the old saying, “Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care.” So, I’m going to start sharing some heartfelt stories. Personal stories. Family stories. Friends’ stories. Stories about people who have successfully made life-changing pivots. Stories from my MasterMind members – where they are today versus where they were yesterday.
Why? Because there’s nothing more I want for you than your happiness and success in every way imaginable. And if I can be a part of it – even better!
Help Me Out Here.
To do that, I have a quick request. Please send me a note. Tell me about your hurdles and your speed bumps and dead-end roads. Tell me about your dreams. Tell me your goals. And please tell me how you believe I can help you achieve them!
Seriously, help me out here. Please drop me a note right now!
your friend’s probably right. I faced similar issue. There is so much going on in our minds because we want others to succeed yet….excuses? from my perspective, much depends on the real actions and not just about words. we need to go beneath to capture the real intent and open to various scenario, we shall not judge too. the true people will have a good sense to know….patiently.
Dear Bruce, I enjoy reading your well written blogs and comments. Since I am retired and still in good health, I have no significant hurdles that face me. However, I do have family and friends with such hurdles and I’d love to hear your approach in your future blogs and perhaps pass on some good advice to those I care about.
Thank you for this Bruce
It’s very much on my
My mind and I want to email you later when I’m done with my clients.
Hi Bruce –
Big fan! Don’t change too much. You got this far as a standout in the crowded branding expert world.
I need help getting my 1st cousin Michael Dell to answer my calls. He owes me a solid. Can you personally reach out to his people? My arts brand needs a rain maker – and a business development partner – to grow into the public arts enterprise I’ve designed it to be.
It’s about time, after 40 years now, when I helped him set up his supply chain here in Miami during my 1983 college spring
break, and his senior year in high school. He has ducked me ever since like I’m the family elephant man. Now, 40 yrs later, it’s time He returns the favor and does ME a solid.
Of course, there’s always more to the story, which I’d be delighted to share with you.
All the best,
Bruce, bravo! I am very frustrated lately because I do everthing I can to help people get what they want, I’m talking about my staff and sales group. But we are really getting hammered by the market and no one is making money. Worse, I am losing money for the first time in years. I do not like that.
I think my staff is working hard, but maybe not hard enough. I know they are not making money, but they are not having to write checks to keep the lights on. Talking about sales advisors here.
But If I push them harder, I think that will be counter-productive.
My concern is not for the long haul, but right now it is really tough.
I also feel like I have a lot to offer prospective sales people. But all of my competitors say the same thing. And finding the real estate sales people to really understand the business side of things is crazy hard.
Just a few thoughts!
Your blogs and my discussions with you are always stimulating and or cast a different light or perspective on a situation, opportunity, or problem I am addressing.
Also, you may remember that when I was a presenter at the SF during the Q&A you mentioned how I helped you, and then said “Vic is a person that can tell someone they’re going to hell and how much they will enjoy the trip.
You strike a match or matches as fast as anyone I have ever been exposed to. Your well is never dry.
Bruce, you may not remember me but we have met several times! It was way back when you gave a presentation to our National Speakers Association in, I think, Plant City, FL. Needless to say, I have followed your business model and, of course, have your books. Honestly I have never did anything substantial with my dream of writing, speaking and coaching.
Fast forward, after owning and operating my businesses, I am retired which only means I have more time on my hands than I actually need or want! I do have a book in mind that I should write. . . but then I think “what do I know that everyone else already knows?”
Maybe I just need a better road map, a kick in the ass or mentor, although you have already provided some of that with your blogs and books!
Thanks for listening, Mike
Not sure I completely agree with your friend’s assessment. I feel that your posts and talks are self-evident when it comes to care for others.
Now maybe I’m jaded because i know you on a personal level. So perhaps there’s validity when dealing with people who don’t know you. I know you’ll add this to your overall positivity.